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I adore this essay, how necessary this message is!

My compassion was also born out of anger, mostly about my childhood and sense of not belonging, compassion is the most fiercely loving thing my body knows how to do, especially now with my child.

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Aww I'm so glad this resonated Sarina! I can feel your fierce compassion through the words you share, too.

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I love this! Thank you so much for adding audio 👍 and at the risk of sounding a tad creepy.. Your voice is so soothing! I could listen to you speak all day! ☺️

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Aww yay thank you! Not creepy at all. Glad you enjoyed😊

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Really enjoyed this post Eliza ❤️ - especially when you say;

"Because self-compassion isn’t appealing in our world. It doesn’t promise instant gratification or external validation."

For me, self-compassion massively helped me get through my post natal anxiety 7 years ago, and it's something that I practice throughout my day. Especially during sleepless nights with my youngest atm, when I can feel myself getting frustrated, I say to myself ' it's OK that you are finding this hard, this is a tough situation." My shoulders loosen instantly when I offer those kind words to myself. Taking time out for self-care is self-compassion for me too.

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Aww I love this Jenna, thanks so much for sharing. How amazing that you're able to meet yourself with kindness, and to feel the physical receiving of those words is just **chefs kiss!!**

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Apr 19Liked by Eliza Butler

'...this is a false dichotomy that keeps us stuck in our stories of suffering. It’s a false dichotomy that’s fed to us from a young age in our patriarchal and capitalist world.'

A wise and profound observation, Eliza. It seems similar to the rat race agenda, whereby the political as well as business classes want the common people to continuously work hard and competitively in order to achieve success purely in terms of financial as well as material wealth.

Well said points.

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Thanks Raveen! Totally agree with your comparison to the rat race agenda 😊

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Your writing is just delightful! Excellent points. "Revolutions are often birthed out of anger and injustice." I couldn't agree more that confrontation inevitably prompts self-reflection and, ultimately, awareness. Thanks for sharing!

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So grateful this resonated Katerina!

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Totally agree Eliza! Learning to practice self compassion has totally transformed my life, was necessary for my path to sobriety and continues to be necessary in caring for myself in the intensity of motherhood where a critical voice often rears it's head. And it IS so radical - so counter to what most of us are raised to believe. And yet also feels so true, when we allow ourselves to feel it, even for a moment.

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Ellie, I'm so happy to hear how practicing fierce self-compassion has been so supportive to you! Wow! And just think how practicing this radical act is supporting your child(ren) to do the same. Amazing.

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I hear you, Eliza. It takes inner strength to show compassion for ourselves then to others. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this— not popular but needs to be said. We need it more than ever.

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Absolutely, Stella. I'll always share what's true, even if it's not popular :) Thanks for reading!

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